Build Your Support Network

The Benefits of Vulnerability

I listened to Daniel Cho’s new podcast, Con Fuoco this morning and found myself surprised at how much external support BSO principal trombonist, Toby Oft used in auditioning.  I definitely didn’t take advantage of a support network earlier in my career. I was so self-conscious, so worried about what someone would say about my playing that I hid.

But what if I had gotten that external feedback?  How would that have changed my trajectory?  While I can’t go back, I can and do use support in my playing, teaching, and life now.  My support network ranges from administrators who support my ideas for classes to colleagues who read my writing or give me feedback on my playing, even feedback from readers is part of my support.

Support can come from many directions and it is healthy to take advantage of it.  Reaching out for feedback does require a certain amount of vulnerability. Vulnerability can be scary. When we open up, the benefit can be even more than we ever imagined. 

I have discovered that reaching out helps me to realize that my struggles are not unique, and leads to new ideas and insights that can help me move forward.  Discussion with a trusted colleague helps to clarify ideas that make implementation easier.  Having someone listen to my playing is valuable feedback on what is going great and what could be better and how to get there.

It’s scary to be vulnerable.  The more you do it, the easier it gets for sure.  Check out Con Fuoco with BSO principal trombonist, Toby Oft for his insights into the audition process.

This week take advantage of your support network.  Haven’t used it lately? Today is a great day to build your network.

Be curious…

This week in the Drop-in Body Mapping Class we will be connecting the arms to find more accuracy and expression in our playing. Connections are huge in releasing tension and uncovering support. Tuesday 3-3:350pm ET, $15 with benefits that are priceless!